So today I will be exploring what feminine and masculine energies are. I recently did a podcast episode talking about the differences between the two, and in this post, I want to go into even more depth.
The first and most important thing we need to know is that everyone, both male and female, has masculine and feminine energy within them. It’s also worth noting that some countries and cultures promote women to be feminine and men to be masculine. Many countries still conform to traditional gender roles. For example, women are responsible for maintaining the home, cooking and cleaning, and raising children in some cultures. On the other hand, men are expected to be providers and support the family financially and are also required to protect and be strong leaders.
Some distinct qualities differentiate the two energies when it comes to feminine and masculine energy. I will start by discussing what characteristics are attributed to masculinity, and then we will cover femininity.
What is Masculine Energy?
Men are more left-brain, meaning they use mostly logic to manoeuvre through life. Masculine men are focused, driven, controlled, strong and can take decisive action. I once dated this bossy, driven and decisive man. I remembered the first time I ever met him, and I hated him; I thought he was super arrogant and cocky. Side note, he was amazing; he was nothing like what I presumed him to be at first. But I guess he was drunk out of his head, and in his defence, once I got to know him, I found out why he was wasted that day. Anyway, so I had just broken up with an ex, and I was sulking around, feeling heartbroken, and my girlfriend had randomly rung me to ask me to come out with her. It was Christmas eve, and I was unaware that people partied the night before Christmas all the way into Christmas Day. I can’t lie; he caught my attention. I watched him all night as he socialised and often made eye contact with me. At the end of the night, as we were about to leave, he stopped us, asked me for my phone, and told me to unlock it. I guess there was something sexy about his demanding nature, I did exactly what he asked, and before I knew it, he had put his number in my phone and dropped called himself. Never had a man been so forward, and honestly, I found it super sexy. Anyway, long story short, he was amazing, and I remember every time he would take me out, he had made sure everything was sorted, he would ask me for my availability and then book himself in. He would tell me to be ready for a specific time and tell me if I should dress up or keep it casual; it was perfect. I loved how decisive he was, especially because I’m so indecisive. I’m that girl who changes her WhatsApp picture every other day, so his presence was so refreshing.
This man was definitely giving me masculine energy vibes, and he was a major risk-taker. I mean, he had left his secure corporate job to start his own business, which his grandmother inspired. He loved a challenge, he had these humongous dreams and goals, and he was actively working tirelessly to achieve his goals. He was a man on a mission, and he was purpose-driven and competitive; he knew what he wanted, and nothing was going to stop him. He worked seven days a week, and every penny he made, he invested it back into his business, he wasn’t flashy, but boy did he know how to treat a woman.
Let’s talk about our first date; we had spoken here and there, he was always busy working, and I understood his hustle, so I didn’t bother him. Another thing about him was that he listened and took notes. So our first date, I had mentioned my love for 90’s R&B music. He rang me out of the blue and asked me if I was free on a specific day, and luckily I was, he told me what time he was coming to pick me up, and he told me to dress casual. Like the gentleman that he is, he drove all the way to my house to pick me up only to drive back in the direction he came. Obviously, being the woman I am, I kept asking him where we were going, and he kept telling me it was a surprise. Finally, we pulled up at North Greenwich; by the way, this is where concerts are held. I smiled like a kid going to see her favourite girl group and said, “we’re going to a concert”, he smiled and said, “yes”. I was screaming and thinking this was one of the best first dates I’ve ever been on.
As we walked towards the arena, I felt super safe and protected. I guess it helped that he was six foot four, and with me being five foot seven, it was nice to have such a sexy, tall, strong and very attentive man walking next to me. When we got inside the arena, I didn’t once have to swipe my credit card, and he made sure I was well hydrated. I had the most amazing time, and once the concert was over, he dropped me home, and walked me to my front door, hugged me and waited until I had safely gotten inside before driving off.
Ladies, when I tell you he was masculine energy on drugs, you might not believe me. Let me tell you one last story about this King, just so that you can really understand what a King who radiates masculine energy looks/sounds like. So I think it was 2 am on a Sunday. I rang him because I knew he was getting off a 16-hour shift, we were talking, and I mentioned that I was famished. We continued talking for the next 45 minutes before he told me to get ready and come downstairs. To my surprise, he had driven all the way to my house to take me out to eat. I was literally blown away; never has a man done something so thoughtful. I knew he was tired, but because I had mentioned that I was hungry, he took me to an all-day food place. When we got there, he instructed me to order as much as I wanted and eat until I was about to pop.
It didn’t end there, ladies. My birthday was the next month, and me being super unbothered. I really had no plans whatsoever, but this King had other plans for me. He was ready to take me on holiday, but unfortunately, I couldn’t take time off work for a vacation, so he went to plan B. He told me to send him a list of things that I really wanted, and he was going to get me a few stuff off my list; we were only dating for six months, and he was ready to make sure I had the most memorable birthday. He planned everything, he was a man with a plan, and he knew what he wanted and didn’t hold back.
You’re probably wondering why I didn’t end up in a relationship with this phenomenal King. Well, I wasn’t ready, and I had to let him go, so he could be the King he was to a woman who was ready to receive his love because unfortunately, I wasn’t ready. But, I feel so blessed to have had such a beautiful soul grace me with his presence. He taught me so many valuable lessons, he opened my heart to start receiving love and he was a truly masculine man.
So ladies, accept nothing less than a man who is going to treat you like a queen. A high-value masculine man will be gentle with you, and he is patient, caring, thoughtful, and extremely ambitious. A real masculine man is a go-getter, and he goes over and beyond in all aspects of his life, including his love life. You should always feel like a priority, not an option, and he should naturally do these things. It shouldn’t be forced or feel like a ‘job’, and he should take control but not control you. He should give but not manipulate, and he should act and not just talk. Those are the characteristics of a high-value masculine man.